As we age, new challenges emerge. Aging parents may depend on the assistance of their children, even as they continue to require the respect and dignity owed to them as parents. In addition, children are faced with decisions regarding their parents’ care and competence.
“I have lived in this house for 30 years. It is my home and I will stay here until they carry me out!”
“My mother doesn’t drive and now that my father is gone, she needs help. In between driving my kids everywhere, I have to fit in doctors and groceries for my mother. I should just put TAXI on top of my car! Why doesn’t she ever ask my brother to help?”
“Dad is planning to marry this woman who has been “helping him” since Mom died. If he marries her, I will never speak to him his grandchildren.”
“My mother-in-law’s house needs work badly. She is afraid to waste money on repair and upkeep. My husband is over there all
Mediation can assist siblings and aging parents to communicate more openly and directly as they develop a plan and strategy for their particular situation. As an agreement begins to emerge, communication skills are improved and the groundwork is laid for resolving future dilemmas in a cooperative manner.
In a neutral and private setting, mediation provides a forum for addressing the subtle and personal issues that often block problem solving. The family is able to resolve their disagreements while preserving their dignity and future family dynamic.
As a highly trained, neutral mediator, I can assist parents and adult children work through issues such as:
*Trusts and inheritance
*Future health and personal care
*Health care proxies and power of attorney
*Bill paying, home upkeep and repair, financial planning
*Sharing caretaking responsibilities among siblings
*Assisted living and nursing homes